The Planner's Corner
Soon after couples announce their engagement, planning the wedding becomes one of the first financial obstacles that the couple has to overcome together. The best thing to do is to learn about typical trends when it comes to planning a wedding and what mistakes lead to the most financial failures amongst couples during this process. Should you put everything on credit cards? Or create a separate checking account specifically for wedding expenses to avoid overspending?
The infographic below highlights information from couples who have gone through this process, wedding planners, and event coordinators to give newly engaged couples a few tips on how to save on their wedding, avoid financial conflicts, and lastly and most importantly the benefits of stress free well planned wedding.
Those redundant words, your wedding day is just one day, may very well be the truth. But society has given us Bridezillas, Say Yes to the Dress!, and all the jazz to keep us wanting that one big day, to be one very big day. Don’t get caught up in the fuss, and listen to the advice from people who have been through this process before.
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Do you need to step up your meeting in a different location? Need the team to think outside the box? Need productivity from your employees? Boss wants you to plan the next corporate meeting in an different location, but you are at your wits end in finding the right spot?
I have listed some places for you to consider as well as some things you need to consider when relocating your next meeting.
Places to host your next meeting:
- On a rooftop of a building
- Park setting
- Off site location - Cave
- Transform a room
- On a boat
- In the airport
Things to Consider:
- The noise level (high traffic area (horns, whistles, bells ringing from church/schools, trains going by, airplanes flying overhead) blaring music, kids talking/laughing/playing loudly, etc.
- The Location/Convenience (safe, distance to and from, security on premises, etc.)
- Time of day (what activity goes on during the day, afternoon, or night)
- Demographics of the area (commercial district, residential area, high crime area, etc.)
- Smells (does the air smell fresh and clean or does it smell like a zoo, Chemicals, a beach or dead fish- what does the air smell like
- The acoustics/sound of the space (are ceilings to high, to low, need microphones, etc.)
- Room (depending on how many people a company will host you want to make there’s the right amount of space to accommodate the meeting (not too big where you would lose the crowd, not too small where it would be a cramped area
- Windows – can they be opened
- Air-conditioning or heating – will it be sufficient during the meeting
- Lighting/Security – will there be enough lighting around the perimeter of building and parking lot, are there cameras, security patrolling the area
- Restroom facilities (handicap accessible, enough restrooms to accommodate everyone, do you have to supply your own toiletries or are they included)
- Access to kitchen or does it comes with catering (you want to make sure if you are having a meeting outside the office you want to make sure you feed people or tell them if it’s a brown bag lunch meeting- where they bring their own).
- Supplies – will they be included or do you need to bring them (white board, paper, pens, notepads, projector, computer, podium, tables, chairs, etc.
- Accommodations (are there stairs – how many flights of stairs, is there an elevator – what’s the capacity, parking – how many spaces available, do you need a shuttle, will there be valet parking – what’s the cost per car – flat rate or by per car, etc.)
- Fire extinguishers/water sprinklers – are they up to code, usable, last time they been inspected, etc.
Once we get into a relationship, how can we guarantee that we stay in it? We found that special someone, and see us spending the rest of our life with them, right? You have some much in common and you truly enjoy being around each other. So what are some of signs that can kill a relationship that should be avoided?
Slow down. Take your time in getting to know each other. Enjoy one
another as the relationship blossoms. If it’s been over a year, and s/he
has not begun to talk marriage....then maybe s/he's not ready. If this is the case,
then you need to find out what their intentions are for you.
9. Bringing baggage from a previous relationship. When you enter into a new
relationship, make sure you resolve the old issues and leave them. Give
the new person the benefit of the doubt that they will not be like your
8. Being too comfortable with each
other. Once this happens, you will begin to lose that thing that brought
you two together and begin to take each other for granted. Always stay in
the dating mode and your love with never die, even after you’re happily
7. Three's a crowd. Leave your
relationship problems at home and not shared with your friends or family.
Be careful of who you have around you and/or your mate. They may just have
other motives. Do not discuss your sexual relationship with your friends either. This can be a relationship killer not just among your mate, but your friend as well. Keep it Vegas.
aware of each other habits. Eventually, they can become annoying and be
more prevalent when you get mad at each other. Make sure you communicate
with each other about what bothers you.
getting along with each other's family or friends. It's important to keep
a "friendly" relationship with the closets people in your mates’
4. Being on different pages. If you both are not aiming for the same goal, then you will soon be on different pages which will allow for room for
distance, or someone else to walk in.
Knowing when to spend time. It is equally important to know when you both
need to exercise "me time" and spend time together. Make sure
you do not work too much or else the other person will feel lonely and thus seek other
things to fulfill their time while you are gone.
Comparison. Never, ever, compare each other to your previous
relationship. This is surely grounds to separation. Leave the past
right where it is - in the past.
1. Stepping out. Stepping out on the one you love is a sure bet to kill your
relationship. This is the ultimate level of betrayal. True, some
people who have been cheated on bounced back, but never to the level of trust
they had. It will always linger in the back of their minds.
Share your thoughts on some of the other things that are relationship killers.
OMG! How many times have you heard of a bride turn into a bridezilla! Or better yet, how many times have you heard a bride say that her bridesmaid is missing in action or not returning her phone calls or emails? Well there is a reason behind all of this.
The Diva Bridal Squad Enhancement and Enrichment Program is here to eliminate all that drama! Face it, planning a wedding is serious business and no one has time for unnecessary non-sense (not saying non-sense is necessary), but I digress.
When planning a wedding or any major event for that matter, it is important that you have reliable people helping you throughout the entire process right? of course I'm RIGHT. So to eliminate all of the confusion, my company has developed a program with the entire bridal party in mind. Sure you can get information all over the Internet, spending hours at a time trying to find tips on planning a successful wedding. But don't you think your time should be spent elsewhere instead of searching the net? We have designed a program that will give you everything you need in less than three hours.
Before you or someone you know make any plans, make sure they participate in The Diva Bridal Squad Enhancement and Enrichment Program so you (or they) can truly have the wedding of your (their) dreams and avoid a runaway bridal party.
This program will provide access to trendsetting ideas so that you will avoid a cookie-cutter wedding experience.
Throughout my years of wedding planning, I have run into brides and their bridesmaids not knowing what their full responsibilities are to the Bride. I cannot tell you enough how many times a bridesmaid thinks it’s about her. Crazy right? But true. We are here to eliminate that!
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Congratulations! You are engaged and now its time to plan your wedding. But do you know how much you want to spend? This is one of the most important aspects of your wedding....determining a budget. Most brides don't know where to begin with this part of the planning process because they are unsure as to what things costs.
The actual ceremony does not cost much at all, unless you are going all out to have a Royal style ceremony. Nevertheless, a ceremony does not break the bank. The number of guests actually determines the budget and then the additions (i.e, attire, cake, photos, dj, decor, flowers, etc.). When you decide on the number of guests, the venue and the food (catered or not), you will have a good idea on where you will spend the most of your dollars. So let's see how much it will cost per person:for a wedding, use this formula:
- Multiply the # of guest by $75 for food and drink.
- The formality of your wedding will influence the cost of everything else. Multiply your guest numbers by $125 for a casual wedding, $175 for semiformal and $225 for formal.
- Add the two numbers together, plus 8.75% for taxes (NYS) and 19% gratuity to see what your wedding could cost.
Next, its time to create your spreadsheet (for my clients I provide this for them with formulas to eliminate the stress in this area. Reality time people! Below are percentages you need to consider when creating your spreadsheet and budget:
Wedding Rings 2-5%
Attendants' Gifts 2-5%
Plus add an additional 10% for unexpected expenses because there will be unexpected expenses. The last thing to keep in mind is to expect about 20% of your guests not to show up, even the ones who RSVP'd.
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Need to add something extra to your holiday table setting? What about chargers?
Charges (or service plates) makes a great addition to your table setting. They come in a variety of metallic and plastic colors. Depending on your color scheme a metallic would finish would add a sparkle to your decor. It will add just the right touch to your table setting. Typically you would place your dinner plate to the charger during the first course. The charger plate is removed and replaced with the main entree.
This large plate, usually about 12” in diameter, serves as an underplate for the plate or bowl holding the first course. The first course is brought to the table and set on the service plate. When the first course is cleared, the service plate remains until the plate holding the entrée is served, at which point the service plate is exchanged for the entrée plate.
Visiting during the holidays is a great time to catch up and see family or friends that you have not seen in a while. The holidays are always great times to create new memories, restore old friendship and begin new traditions. While you are visiting your family or friends, keep these few tips in mind:
1. When visiting family or friends keep your visit short. The rule of thumb is three nights. Let the hostess know well in advance how long you intend to stay.
2. When family get together its time for everyone to get into your business. In an event to avoid “sharing” your personal matters with family, just redirect the question or change the subject. No need to get upset no matter how rude the person insist on being. Give them a complement on their dress or shoes. This will allow them to talk about themselves and will allow you to walk away.
3. Depending on the hostess, offer assistance in cleaning up after dinner has been served. A great idea would be to do a specific job such as sweeping the floor or washing the dishes or even removing the plates from the dinner table.
4. Everyone loves being surprised with a gift, so consider taking a gift with you when you go to someone else’s house for dinner. This can be dessert, wine or something personal.
5.If the hostess declines the offer then let it go and move on. Just don’t take it personal, as some people don’t like guests in their kitchen.
It's All About You...
It’s your big day! Everyone wants to make a grand statement that will be remembered for years to come by family and friends. The important thing to remember is to keep your big day focused on you and you fiancée. If you aren’t into lavish, expensive things on a regular basis, why turn your wedding into that?
Pick wedding colors that are aligned with your personality. If you normally wear earth tones, stay within that color family. It’s not that you have to go the boring and safe route, but who doesn’t want their wedding day to make a statement that is all them? Stay within those earth tones you love, but spice it up by picking an emerald green for the bridesmaids dresses instead of the safe olive green that always appears in your own wardrobe.
Add a pop of color to your own dress. Pick a color that reflects your personality and who you are.
Surprise your friends and family by choosing a fun accessory to draw attention to your hair, through a fun hairpin. Or bring attention to your arms with a fun bracelet or gloves.
Hire a professional to do your makeup. Show them pictures of how you normally do your makeup. This way you will feel comfortable in what they do, but they may be able to add that pop of color or smoky eye to intensify your look in a way that is still you, but makes a statement on your special day.
Your wedding day is all about you. Make decisions that you feel comfortable with. Don’t let other people railroad your day, and don’t make decisions based on what you think will impress your guests. Impress them with a wedding day that makes a statement, but still screams you!
1. Peace of mind
: No one wants to be stressed out on their big day. Let someone else deal with the last minute details. As we say at Above & Beyond, let us make you a guest at your own wedding!
2. Networking relationships with vendors: Experienced planners in the wedding industry will have great contacts. Utilizing these connections through them will not only give you great deals and room left in your budget, but great advice right from the experts!
3. Problem solvers, built to solve emergencies: Leave the emergencies to the experts. Wedding planners are known problems solvers. Not only are they built to solve those last minute emergencies, but they excel at it. Don’t leave any room for stress on the day of your event!
4. Help with creative ideas/fine details: Not so creative yourself? Wedding planners are more than just great with details. After years of experience in décor, they can provide you with solutions and ideas to make your wedding day unique and special.
5. Help save money: Wait, what?! Spending money on a wedding planner can help you save money?! Yes, they can! Wedding planners are great at planning within a budget. Not only that, but the experts are great at brainstorming cheap ways to make your day look perfect! Utilizing their connections with vendors and expertise in décor, you may find you have room leftover in your budget!
6. Be a guest at your own event: This is our motto at Above & Beyond, and we mean it! Hiring a wedding planner allows you to focus on the important aspect of the day, enjoying time with friends and family! Let the wedding planner figure out the small last minute details, while you enjoy your special day stress-free!
7. Impartial voice of reason: Let someone with an outside opinion, and no bias, help plan your day! A wedding planner is able to take a step back, and ensure that not only is every detail covered, but that everyone is maintaining focus on the big picture and not stressing over the not-so-important small details.
8. Keep your family/friends from trying to run your special day: Keep control over your special day! By using a wedding planner as a buffer, you are able to stop your over-bearing family and friends from trying to make your special day about them. A wedding planner can keep the cool between the family by offering suggestions as the impartial voice of reason (mentioned above).
9. Professionalism and agreement: By relinquishing your duties to the wedding planner, they can ensure that every aspect of your wedding is professional and perfect. The agreement that you sign will be able to outline every detail for them to take charge of, again ensuring professionalism all the way through!
10. No surprises! Your wedding planner will have an amazing attention to detail. Your agreement will be followed, and there will be no surprises the day of your wedding! Everything will run seamlessly, and you won’t have to stress on the small details, knowing that your wedding planner will take care of it all!
Leave it to the pros!